INTEGRATIVE COUNSELLING + COACHING
 

I specialize in helping couples and individuals work through the following issues:

  • Attachment trauma or developmental trauma

  • Relationship conflict, communication, trust and attunement issues

  • Anxiety and depression

  • Nervous system and/or emotional dysregulation

  • Loss and grief

  • Self-confidence, self-worth or self-esteem issues

  • Disconnection and dissociation from oneself or one’s body

  • Life transitions and personal transformation

    I go into greater depth on my four main areas of focus below. If you have a question about an experience you are going through and don't see it listed here, please don't hesitate to connect with me and ask. I would love to be of support to you!

Relationship
COACHING + Counselling

Relationships are the most important and meaningful connections we have in our lives, and yet can also be some of the most challenging experiences we’ll ever go through.

We often show up in in our adult relationships without the relational skill sets that we need to communicate effectively, navigate conflict well, negotiate needs fairly, set healthy boundaries, and hold space for ourselves or our partners when old childhood traumas and wounds show up (which they always will when we are willing to move towards greater intimacy!)

Relationship counselling and coaching can support you and your partner to create the safe, loving and attuned relationship you want.

Clients often ask me: Is there a difference to coaching vs. counselling? Some counsellors say yes and some say no. In my practice, I use the word “coaching” to refer to a more proactive, structured and solution-focused approach to working towards goals. I use the word “counselling” to refer to a more process-oriented approach and reflective approach to exploring relational dynamics and where they came from. When both approaches are used together, they effectively clarify where you want to go in your relationship, work to remove the blocks standing in the way, and give you the tools you need to get there.


THERAPY for anxiety and stress

Anxiety and stress can feel awful - tightness and tension in the body, ruminating thoughts, feeling pressure, panic attacks, and a sense of being disconnected from yourself and the world around you. Whether it’s specific situations that send danger signals racing through your body and negative thoughts running in your mind, or whether it feels like there’s a pervasive unease that you’re living with all the time, an integrative counselling approach can help shift you out of overwhelm and exhaustion and into more connection, flow, and well-being.


THERAPY for healing
trauma 

Trauma doesn’t just happen to a few unlucky people: it’s an indivisible part of human experience. Pain, overwhelm, loneliness, fear, loss - all of us face these kinds of traumas at some point in life. Especially when these experiences happen to us in our early years and we don’t have a safe relational way to process them, it often precipitates developmental or relational trauma, which is what we experience when emotional pain cannot find a safe relational home to hold it and help it be processed.

Whether it’s a one-time event that knocks us off our feet, or an ongoing longer period in which our needs for safety, connection, and a relational way to process painful experiences may either have not been met or were violated - overwhelming distress leaves an impact on our minds, brains, nervous systems and bodies. Some of the most common fallouts of unhealed trauma is dissociation: a part of the self gets compartmentalized in order to flee the pain, and the mind splits from the body. Or it can be a state of dysregulation: we are unable to manage intense or unbearable emotions, resulting in symptoms of anxiety, depression, panic attacks, addictive behaviours, disrupted sleep or eating patterns.

Trauma-informed counselling creates a safe relational container to process emotions and pain so that they don’t remain unresolved. It emphasizes somatic mindfulness - supporting, containing, and deepening emotional states in the body and allowing them to complete - while integrating parts of the mind or self that may be isolated and releasing them from potential negative identifications, e.g., “I’m a burden,” “I’m too needy,” or “I’m unlovable,” and so on. Through this process, we shift from unhealthy patterns of self-regulation and coping mechanisms, towards learning how to re-regulate our nervous systems through healing connections (co-regulation) with others and with our core selves and bodies.

Trauma informed counselling also recognizes that we are all impacted by oppressive forces in this world that are beyond our control to differing degrees, and helps us identify these forces so that we have a balanced view of the right timing and amount of responsibility we have in responding to challenging situations.

THERAPY for life transitions

As we move through life, we naturally go through different transitions. These times of change can be exciting, wonderful, sad, terrifying - a whole range of experiences, and sometimes all mixed together at once! Starting or ending relationships, jobs, school, business ventures, or getting married are examples of common transitions. Struggling with health issues, loss, or grief are others. Leaving behind old beliefs, working on self-improvement, expanding your consciousness, or laying the foundation for the next stage of your life are also transitions. Having the right support through these processes can help navigate complex feelings and alleviate distress, and can help you make space for a stronger and more integrated sense of self to emerge.